WOAH here is a heavy topic.
the other night while we were watching the third presidental debate, nathaniel asked me if i thought that fathers should have rights when it comes to abortion issues. i don't remember what spurred that conversation, but... i've really been thinking about it since he asked me.
here’s what i've come up with: abortion rights for men? use a condom. there’s your abortion right. keep it in your pants, or use contraception. once those boys are in that egg — which is in the woman’s body, not the man’s — you have lost your say in the matter.
implicit in every act of intercourse is the chance that you might have a child. i agree that women should be using contraceptives (i.e. keep your legs clothes or take the pill). but men have to acknowledge that every time they have unprotected sex, or every time they take the woman at her word for it, they risk fathering a child. by not using a condom, they have assumed that risk and waived any right to protest about the outcome of their actions.
sorry. if you don’t want to pay child support, make sure you don’t father a child. not fair? right. neither is life.
call it harsh.. call it black and white... call it close minded, but that is what i think. (can you tell i am pro-life?)
i'm sure at least half of you will disagree. i'm not trying to start an argument, i just thought i'd blog about this to get YOU thinking about the question posed to me! do YOU think fathers (should) have any rights when it comes to abortion?
I agree with you.
ReplyDeleteif the rolls were switched, and the man were pregnant and wanted to get rid of the baby, he wouldn't let the woman's opinion sway him to keep it (most men).
I think that pregnancy and birth are all part of a woman's body, and if she chooses to terminate, that is her business and her decision to make.
I'll tell ya though, your blog opened my eyes to something. I started to say I am pro-choice, and i am in a way. i think someone should have the right to choose whether or not to keep their pregnancy to term. but at the same time, it really hurts me to say that. I would never be able to do such a thing. why must a child suffer because of the parent's mistake. but at the same time, what if it really was a mistake and the child is born into a horrible life... I think the child would have been better off to have never been.
I don't know. now i'm all confused. I just know that I would never be able to terminate a pregnancy. It is such a miracle for the sperm to happen to find the egg and for it to actually penetrate and fertilize.
ok going to bed now...
kate, i've always thought i was pro-choice. i thought that just because i wouldn't want an abortion, another woman couldn't make that decision for herself. however, after giving it more thought, i think that i'm not. (yea, i disagreed with myself! haha)
ReplyDeleteafter i considered the topic at hand more, i really feel that people should be held accountable for what they do... and if a couple is having (consensual) sex, and they get pregnant because neither one or both wanted to practice safe sex... then they need to continue what they started (which is birth a child, they don't have to keep it. lots of people want to adopt babies.) that does not mean that a child would be raised in a bad environment, that does not mean that they have to get married, etc. it just means they need to finish the cycle - and birth a child.
I've never liked the moniker "pro life" as it insinuates that a women that, for whatever reason (their own business, IMO) has an abortion, this means she doesn't believe in life!
ReplyDeleteAnyway, to your question, Analee. IF the man is involved with the woman (meaning, some sort of relationship) I do believe he should have the "right" to weigh in on the decision; whether to have the child and support it, have the child and put it up for adoption, opt to terminate the pregnancy, or, say "I don't know, I don't care".
But, in the end, it has to be the woman's choice. If she cares for her partner, she will include him in the decision, but, no matter how supportive he might be, SHE will be the one either in the clinic, or will be the one in labor having the child and could be the one that ends up raising it/supporting it by herself.
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