Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Monday, June 29, 2009
manic monday - screw dave ramsey
here i go again with the vacation thing, but this is manic monday... and i'm supposed to whine about something.
sometimes i just want to say "screw dave ramsey!" and just spend money. but, we've got one month down (till ? many months of paying off ALL our debt, including car loans and college loans and mortgage loans, and don't forget the 15 trips to the ER we took this winter, etc.)
i know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but from where i stand - dressed in my stained and holey clothes - the tunnel is completely dark. dave ramsey says to "live like noone else" and i definitely feel like i have for the last month. we eat well (haven't compromised any food quality), but other than than i definitely think i took my living style down a few notches from 2 months ago...
and of coarse if i was gonna blow a little bit of money (like $100 to $200), i'd buy myself some new clothes. and if i was gonna blow a LOT of money (over $200), i'd take a vacation. this will sit heavy on me for the next 2 weeks while my lucky duck sister is in hawaii - i'll constantly be reminded that we won't get a vacation for a few years.
its kinda like when you start a diet and for the first 2 weeks you are good about it... then after that you start to want to cheat (first with things like a piece of candy and then eventually it turns into things like pizza and cake) - and the longer you go without those things you crave, i suppose a lifestyle change will occur (miracle). right? so i'm waiting for my "will-stop-longing-for-trips-far-away" miracle to occur. suppose for this to happen in the first month is out of the question. maybe next month will be better. in the mean time, i've totally moved from just wanting a new shirt to wanting a whole new wardrobe and from just taking a day trip to the beach to wanting a week away in some far away place. willpower never was my strong trait!
i'm so spoiled. and it sucks becoming unspoiled.
and if we (i) end up doing well with this budget, i wish i could automatically apply that willpower to what (and how much) i put in my mouth!
in the mean time, i'll just feel sorry for myself.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
workable weekend - baby einstein
Friday, June 26, 2009
friday five - things i don't like to do anymore
just thought i'd post another friday five, since this was my original idea of what to do, but when it came time to write this morning, i couldn't remember what it was that i was gonna write!
five things that i used to like to do that i no longer like to do. mainly because i haven't the time... kids, you know - they take up all your time! worth it though!
1. wrap presents.
2. cook.
3. drink beer/wine. hey, you never know when you'll have to dash off to the ER!!!
4. clean.
5. have pets. this one is the worst because we have 2 cats that never get any attention (from us, they get plenty from our neighbors and folks' walking by!)
friday five - the week in review
Thursday, June 25, 2009
thankful thursday - funky funks
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
yawwwwwwnnnnnnn...
well, since kendal's birth, we've noticed that when we yawn, he doesn't yawn back. i wondered when our yawn's would become contageous.
it happened. i noticed it a couple of weeks ago, but then i yawned again and he didn't repeat it.
just now, though, i yawned and he looked at me and yawned too. then i waited a second and yawned (fake) again and then he yawned again. holly had no response either time.
kendal is 21 months and a week and 2 days today. i'm gonna say that about 21 weeks, with him, yawning became contageous.
i wonder when it'll be for holly. (check back in 15 months or so.)
by the way, how many times did you yawn while reading this post?
what i want wednesday - a vacation!
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
kendal update
top ten tuesday - things about holly
Monday, June 22, 2009
random survey
holly's first high-chair sitting!
ringin' the bell for fathers' day!
manic monday - constructive criticism
at what point do you put a relationship on the line and intervene with another person's life?
if you see a problem and know they don't, when do you say something?
how do you make it about constructive criticism and not about pointing fingers?
i was never one to be soft about anything... it just isn't in my personality.
on another note, the trash can next to me smells like pee.
guess someone used it as the diaper pail again! (and it wasn't me!)
workable weekend - WW-wanabee
Sunday, June 21, 2009
friday five - "where" facts
1. i ate apple pie in julian, ca - a place supposedly famous for apple pie - but not on my first trip to the town. on my first trip there, nathaniel and i went to get cough medicine and ate at the julian cafe. it snowed 6 inches while we ate and nathaniel was a nervous wreck (they were calling for a blizzard). we followed a snow plow down the mountain after we ate. later that week we went back up to julian to eat apple pie (at mom's pie house). there was still a foot of snow everywhere, but the roads were clear.
2. the first place i went white water rafting was the french broad river. i've been rafting about 8 times in my life. it was also the last river i floated down.
3. the first and only place i've rock climbed is on the south rim of the grand canyon.
4. though i haven't even been out of the united states except to go to tropical destinations, i'm sure that my favorite place in the world is northern NM and AZ.
5. though there are at least three hospitals closer to my house, i delivered both of my babies at rex healthcare. if i have a 3rd, i'll deliver there again. it is a great hospital.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
dr. phil's blog
Is there anything more predictable than the commencement address? You know exactly what happens: somebody who’s already a success stands up and tells a bunch of kids in caps and gowns that they too can be a success. “You can be whatever you want to be!” the speaker cries out. “You can live your dreams! Happy clichés for everyone!”
How many of this year’s graduates do you think believed a word that they heard at their graduations? How many believed the classic graduation punch line that they are in control of their own destiny, when the fact is that just about everything else they hear is all doom and gloom, bankruptcies and foreclosures, cutbacks and layoffs? My favorite commencement address of the year came from Federal Reserve Chairman Ben Bernanke, who told the graduates of the Boston College School of Law, “My advice to you is to stay optimistic. Things usually have a way of working out.”
Oh, really?
The trouble with today’s times is that the future isn’t what it used to be. Yes, it’s going to come back around. Our kids’ prospects are not always going to be so dim. But that doesn’t take away from the reality of what they feel right now.
So here are 10 things I’d like this year’s graduates to hear, plain and simple:
1. Don’t live in a bubble. There is no way you can get a sense of what life is all about through Twitter, MTV or even the Dr. Phil show, along with some brief headlines on the Web. Stay informed. Read a newspaper. That’s right, a newspaper. The more you know, the more you’re going to know what to do with your life. I swore the day I finished school that I would never read another non-fiction book! Fortunately, that only lasted a few weeks. You either get it or you don’t, and if you aren’t aware of “it,” then you sure can’t “get it.”
2. Don’t expect that you have something coming to you. One of the worst attributes I see in young adults is their sense of entitlement. Today’s young people didn’t invent this, as we all had it, but they sure are taking it to a new level! Let me tell you, you are not entitled to anything, not even when times are good. You have no right to expect to start your life at the same level that you enjoyed when you were living with your parents, or when they were paying your bills. It took your mom and dad 20-plus years to get to the standard of living that they now enjoy. It is just flat-out crazy for you to think you should start out at the level they are at today. And it’s crazier to want them to subsidize your life so you can live that way.
3. Don’t be a financial idiot. Please try to remember that you’re living in an economically challenging time, which means you must - absolutely must - avoid as much debt as humanly possible for the next five years. Do not, for instance, finance a toy. I don’t care if you want a widescreen television, a boat, a motorcycle or a vacation, you simply should never borrow money to do something you don’t have to do. Instead, find an expert, and find out, as scary as things are, if you should be putting money into your company’s 401(k), or buying stocks or mutual funds. I know when you’re 22, the last thing you’re thinking about is retirement, but this could be one of the most important, forward-thinking changes you can make now that will change your future.
4. Don’t let your Facebook page screw up your future. Right now, go scrub your Facebook, MySpace and any other social networking Web site you’re on. Every employer is going to check you out on the Internet. And if you’ve got pictures of yourself half naked with vomit down your arm while you’re cannonballing a Quaalude, then trust me, you are not going to leap to the top of the resume pile.
5. Don’t confuse the virtual world with the real world. Many people, young and old, decide to find a job virtually. Well, sure, it’s easy to get on some Web-based job site and post your resume, then sit at home and play video games waiting for someone to call you. But it just doesn’t work that way. If you want a job, you need to make eye contact and “press the flesh.” You need to knock on doors and let people see you are a real person, not another e-mail message, and convince them that you can do something for them right now, today.
6. Don’t pigeonhole yourself. If you have a specific degree in, say, accounting or engineering, do not make the mistake of thinking that you therefore have to work as an accountant or an engineer. In this economy, you need to be willing to use your skills and abilities in a variety of settings. If you’ve got the “I don’t do windows” attitude, you’ll be sent straight to the sidelines. The world is changing fast, and you need to be flexible to change with it.
7. Don’t be afraid of failure. This is so baffling to me. So many people, when faced with disappointment, have no idea what to do. They feel humiliated. They feel sorry for themselves. Eventually, they become paralyzed. It’s important to understand that, at some point, everyone fails. That’s right, everyone has a significant set back. And it’s going to happen, especially in this day and age — whether it’s not finding a job, or having to work at a “crummy” job or having to stand in line at the unemployment office.
8. Don’t forget your manners. When young people today reach the age of adulthood, they rarely hear anymore talks about the importance of good manners. It’s assumed that they know what to do. Oh, is that right? Here are a few reminders beloved graduates: Call your parents once a week. Always leave a tip, especially for the maid who has to clean up after you when you stay at a hotel. Actually listen when someone else is talking to you and don’t interrupt. And never forget to take a couple of minutes a day to ask yourself, “Did I do anything today that made someone else feel better about his or her life?” Just as you have skills that employers are willing to pay for, you have skills that can be used in service to someone else. So go volunteer. We’re all in this together, and it’s your duty to do your part.
9. Don’t forget what you can control. This recession has taught a lot of people that they don’t fully control their fate. Yes, for now, they might have to accept the fact that the glass is half empty and not half full. But despite all that, everyone does still control the formation of the most important thing they have: their character. They get to decide if they’re going to lead a life that has meaning. Believe me, you don’t have to perform some earth-shattering, headline-grabbing act to find that meaning. It’s the little, un-historic choices that you make that will lead you to happiness.
10. Don’t hesitate to take a leap of faith. If there is something you really want to do with your life, even if it’s something that other people ridicule, then there is no better time to try it than right now, before you have the responsibilities of home mortgages, a spouse and children. If you’re inspired by an idea, follow that inspiration. You’ll never be sorry you tried too soon. The one most devastating phrase you will ever utter is, “I waited too late.”
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
what i want wednesday - a brain!
thankful thursday - ceiling fans
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
under my skin...
and in particular, our coast is sand deficient (i.e., there isn't a source of sand to build barrier islands). so, when a barrier island sand is wasted (washed away from a storm), then it is gone for good. the natural way an island moves is that it "rolls over" - sands from the front move to the back during large storms. large houses and other structures (man in general) have kept this from happening, thus the sand is being wasted into channels and out to sea. once the sand is gone, it is gone - and there isn't more to replace it. the shoreface along our OBX is made of mud and/or gravel - not sand. ever walked along our beach and seen a pile of black mud? we used to call it whale poop when i was little. well it is clay from the yorktown formation that is outcropping in the shoreface. sand is not a part of the yorktown.
anyway, as you can tell, i'm still all fired up about this story. we have an idiot for a governor. and aparently half our senate also qualifies for that status.
i'm guessing here that she has a house at the beach. and i'm guessing that the rest of the senate that is pushing this part of the budget also has a house down there... or friends with them. nothing like special interest spending - suppose she wants the state to SQUEAL LIKE A PIG!
top ten (or eleven) tuesday - things about my sister's kids
Monday, June 15, 2009
manic monday - may/june field camp woes
about this time every year (actually starting in mid-may and lasting until the end of june), i get a little depressed. why? because in 1998, i went on my first trip of a lifetime - my first geology field camp! (well, that link is the "new" field camp, a little different than when i went as a student.) its so great that all my memories as a student are wonderful. great people, great teachers (even mr. "MMMMMKAY" smith), and GREAT GREAT fun (somewhat fogged with beer goggles).
two years later when i started graduate school (which i never finished...), i got the pleasure of going back as a teaching assistant. the course had changed a little (more to what the link above is like now, less camping, no visiting arizona and the grand canyon... but not at all less fun). still, great group of students, same great group of professors, and again - great memories (still fogged with the beer goggles...)
of coarse the second time i went out west, i was having a little personal turmoil, which ultimately led to my "letting go" of a marriage. i suppose that second trip meant a little more to me than just a trip out west. it was a defining moment in my life - again.
so now its been 11 years since i went to field camp for the first time (eh, 9 years since the last time i went) and since then, katelyn has gone also. i'm pretty sure she enjoyed it, though i'm not sure it was as life changing for her as it was for me.
there is something about the desert southwest that draws me back. and every may and june since 1998, the spirits sing my name. and when i can't go, it makes me very sad.
last september, nathaniel, kendal, and i took a grand vacation to many of the same places i went to with my field camp group. i know kendal won't remember the trip, but it may have been life changing for nathaniel, though only for a 2 week visit.
we still talk about that trip like it was yesterday.
i wish it were tomorrow.
i wonder if this september the spirits will begin an annual singing of OUR names.







